Discouragement is easy to fall into in our society today. With the rise of social media and worldwide connectedness, we often find examples of guys who do things better than us. This means we have to fight against it actively. If we aren’t careful, we can fall into a place of discouragement where we stay busy but don’t live purposefully.

On today’s show, we discuss the cycles of discouragement and why we get to this place. As we recognize the mindset, we can begin to fight against it.

The Suck Cycle

Many men get to a place of frustration and declare, “I’m going to CHANGE!”

Then they come up with some crazy plan which often ends in failure

This puts them right back to the start but with more frustration

They eventually develop a lack of belief in their ability to change

Everything’s Personal

Our discouragement grows when we take everything in a hyper-personal way

“I’m fat because I’m a failure” “I’m poor because I’m lazy”

There is a place for taking personal responsibility, but does everything have to be personal?

We have to learn to separate who we are as men from what we do as men

Dealing with Failure

Our sense of failure often derives from our Unrealistic expectations

We battle this by learning to approach setbacks differently

Defining the problem

Trading condemnation for curiosity: Curiosity asks, “Why I fail?”; Condemnation assumes it’s all our fault

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CHALLENGE:

Quit trying to fix multiple things to get better in

Pick one thing to get better at and focus your energy on that

Get curious about past failures and seek to learn from them instead of ignoring them

Quit trying to lone-wolf fix things in your life

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