Episode 144

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27th Mar 2023

Men and Their Shame

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Shame is a strange thing to talk about because many people try to deny shame or say we shouldn't feel it. Shame is real and it is a serious issue among men today. We talk about how shame hurts men but also bring out some of the positives of shame that we have forgotten as a society.

The Negative Side of Shame

  • Shame is a hidden weight too many men carry
  • Secret actions that no one may know about but we still deal with
  • Men are designed to be the ones who stand up for others
  • Shame causes us to pull ourselves from the fight
  • Shame and failure lead many men to quit trying
  • Other men just get hard to the shame and stop caring
  • We must recognize the negatives that are coming from our shame or they will silently rob us of our real design as men

The Positive Side of Shame

  • Our conscience feeling bad can be a good direction for us
  • It makes us think twice before engaging in an action
  • Imagining the shame more than imagining the thing you want to do is a positive benefit of shame
  • We have imaginations and we should use them to think ahead about our actions
  • Seeing someone else affected makes us rethink
  • Shame can keep us from investigating and finding out more about specific activities
  • Thinking through the consequences of shame and letting our own shame keep us from hurtful things is a positive of shame

The Antidote to Bad Shame

  • Character and integrity should be the pillars of strength for men
  • Dr. Henry Cloud in Integrity: "Character is the ability to meet the demands of reality"
  • The more you have a strong core, the more you will make the right choices
  • Character is built through the lens of our reality
  • The Reality of Our Strengths and Weaknesses
  • The Reality of Our Core


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The Thriving Man Podcast
Helping Men Live a Life They can be Proud of!
Many guys get trapped in focusing on one area of their life at the expense of everything else. It could be their physical health, their career, a sport, or even a hobby. The problem is this: A Truly Successful Life isn't one-dimensional! That is why there are miserable millionaires. Who cares how much money you have if, for example, you have no one you can call a true friend?
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David and Reese Maxwell

Over 40 Years Of Combined Mentoring Experience
David and Reese Maxwell are a father and son duo with a passion to help men live the best life possible.