Why Some Men Suck at Dating
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The guys who suck at dating are often dating for the wrong reasons. Their attitudes are focused on everything but the person they are dating. This hurts them as men and it hurts their ability to have close intimate relationships. Plus, they either won't go out on dates or they will have the wrong attitude for every date they have.
The Ego Feeders
- Successful dates happen when both parties on the date focus on the other person
- They focus on themselves and how the date feeds their ego
- They pick a girl based on what other guys will think of her
- The guy isn't focusing on her as much as he is focusing on himself
- This cuts off the ability for there to be a real connection on the date
- These guys suck at dating because they aren't looking for relationships they are looking for an ego stroke
- Quality women want to be seen as a person and not tools for a man's ego
The Conquest Counters
- Sexual conquests are the name of the game for these guys
- These men are having sex for themselves and their pleasure
- Guys who are self-focused on their own pleasure in sexual encounters are just performing masturbation with a different partner
- Guys like this suck at dating because they are not looking for intimacy or connection
- These men must first of all reign in their sexual appetites
- A man who can control his sexual urges is a man who can master self-control
- He must learn to see women as individuals and not as medals of honor for himself
The Awkward Loners
- These guys are so eaten up with insecurity that dating is more of a dream rather than a reality
- They stay in the surface sexual area cause it is safer than really sharing themselves
- Fear of rejection looms huge over them and keeps them from stepping out
- They will run away to virtual escapes acting like it is no big deal that they don't have a relationship
- Men were created to lead but these guys never learn to lead themselves
- They often end up in controlling relationships with women
- They buy into the extremes of what a man is
- They feel "lucky"
- Men who struggle as loners need to find healthy ways to grow as men
